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"Do you know when you'll be chatting with the band?" a text pops up. "I wanted to ask if I can become their extra sister."

However, there remains a single issue: The author likewise desires to be the Haims' newest recruit. And we're far from alone. A host of celebrated admirers have also petitioned for the role.

It's clear a special quality is at play. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana started their path performing shows at local delicatessens with their family. Today, they are repeated Grammy nominees.

In the tradition of the most iconic groups, they're a tight-knit trio. Their videos often depict them walking in sync down the roads of Los Angeles. In concert, they perform with such unfettered exuberance you inevitably think, "I'd love to be a piece of that, too."

"The numerous instances on tour that young girls came up to us and said, 'After your show, I picked up a drum kit'," remarks Alana, the most junior of the trio. "It is the ultimate honor. That is recognition in itself. We've done our job if we can inspire people to start a band."

"And thus anyone are welcome to be the honorary Haim sister."

Grammy Nod

The band are speaking from home, where they're taking a pause after an major tour in promoting their new album, I Quit.

They're currently celebrating the news it's been nominated for a top rock honor at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the very first all-female band ever in contention for the award.

"I follow the announcements every year, so it kind of feels like a surreal movie when your name is called," notes Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Did we just hear this correctly or am I imagining things'?"

The weight of the honor is deeply felt by the band.

"We truly set out to make a rock album this time, so it's a huge step," continues Alana. "But we're just grateful for the female artists that paved the way."

Emotional Upheaval and Laughter

The record was born from a time of personal change. All three sisters ended up single, and the music explores that odd liminal space where you're glad to be free, but not entirely ready to start anew.

The words detail departures and farewells. The sisters seek love, but not the specific love they've had. You can hear them working out in real life who they aspire to be.

"I love way of putting it, yes," responds Danielle. "I Quit is kind of like a slogan. You have to actively work on shutting out the criticism and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Refinement of Style

That developed confidence called for a new sound – more unpolished and direct than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that started with the percussion.

"Drums are such a detailed thing, and I care so much about it," she states.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our biography," quips Alana. "I always say, our albums won't commence until we find the right drum sound."

Anecdotes and Collective Camaraderie

The band's openness fueled the album's rollout, where the sisters revealed some of their romantic horror stories.

A former partner left Este over a medical consideration. Alana told a story of flying to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"When you're going through these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's no light," explains Alana. "So to be able to find humor in those stories and hear others tell you more outrageous stories, it's so amazing."

A Confident Future

It's not difficult sense a evolution in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their position in the industry.

They're major draws, with chart-topping albums and an worldwide audience.

But the sister act will consistently be their primary focus.

"Me and my siblings have been performing since I was a young child," concludes Alana. "There is no other path that we were supposed to do. And I'm really grateful we've gotten here and we're still kicking."